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Waiting to erupt, part 1: Nea Kameni

Thursday, February 12th, 2009

born cliffyNea Kameni is a volcano that was once part of the land mass of Santorini.  When it erupted, it sent a large chunk of the island hurtling to the ocean floor, leaving the island in a ball-and-cup formation called the Cauldera - a circular volcanic mass accompanied by the crescent-shaped main island.

That main island is a spectacular place that’s famous for its clusters of dramatic cliff-face buildings, wedding-worthy sunset, association with the Atlantis myth and Minoan civilisations, and tasty tomato patties which my best friend and I feasted on at a ouzoeri in the main town of Fira.

Santorini tomato balls“Our friendship is like that volcano,” Marilyn muses over our lunch.  ”They don’t know when it’ll erupt.  All they know is, it will.”

It couldn’t have been clearer the day before when we went sailing around the Cauldera and climbed Nea Kameni.  But today, like my hair, is unusually gray.

“It’s been 16 years and we’ve never fought,” Marilyn continues.

Well, there was that one incident in year 8 when I’d imprecisely folded some cardboard she had for a geography assignment.  We didn’t talk for a day.

But as for those notoriously bad fights that best friends can have, well, it’d really take something extraordinary for one of those.

Unimpressed
But what?  We’re very different people, but bizarrely harmonious in a way that makes me wonder if we were identical twins in a past life.  We’re both obsessive about hygiene (we went through a bottle of hand sanitiser on this trip).  We both can’t stand wearing nailpolish because it makes our fingertips feel hot.  We never, ever like the same boys.

We can’t even play scissors-paper-rock without presenting the same freaking object every single time (I know, right?).

“Maybe we’re due for a fight,” she says.

We’d already had our share of meltdowns on this trip.  In Athens, en route to Mykonos, we hauled all our luggage to Piraeus port, only to discover we should’ve gone to the port at Rafina instead – a train, a bus, and an hour-and-a-half away.

In Mykonos, aka “the stupid island I never wanted to go to” (quote comes courtesy of my fed-up rant at Rafina), we got lost in the tangle of streets of the tiny Old Town.  After all, those streets were built to disorient pirates, punctuated by shops designed to dazzle.  So, just like pirates of old, we too walked around in circles for hours - Marilyn nearly in tears, me nearly asleep on my feet.  It’s a good thing no swordplay was required.

volcano ho!

Even in a place as breathtaking as Santorini, we’d had our moments.

flipflopsThe day we climbed the volcano, we swam in open waters to get to the hot springs (something neither of us were sure we were capable of), scaled 300 or so steps up a cliff in Oia, waited for hours for the “famous” Oia sunset, only for it to cloud over, and then sat on a bus for ages in damp clothes encrusted in volcanic minerals to get back to Fira.

We’d spent a large chunk of that day being whipped by the sea on the pirate-esque ship that took us around the Cauldera.

six billion steps up a cliffFor my part, my flip-flops broke at the volcano’s peak AND I got an Ayers Rock-shaped sunburn on my back while on the small island of Thirasia (note to self: putting sunscreen on your own back is neither clever nor effective).

All in all, it was the amazing kind of day that shows you what your limits are.  But, as it turned out, it also highlighted the main difference between Marilyn and I…

Why Greece?

Wednesday, October 29th, 2008

My best friend Marilyn and I made a deal back in 2003 when we were flatmates in LA. My return to Oz was imminent and we knew we wouldn’t see each other again for at least a year (it ended up being closer to two). Such are the perils of being best friends across continents.

To console ourselves, we decided that by age 26 we’d go to Italy.  Why 26?  Because after that we would be “too close to 30″, which is embarrassing reasoning, in retrospect.  Why Italy?  ’cause it sounded cool and I like pizza (possibly less to do with it being Italian and more to do with the Ninja Turtles – more embarrassing reasoning here).

Or perhaps it was an English teacher we had back in high school who planted the idea in our heads.  Mrs Wells (I’m supposed to be on a first-name basis with her now that it’s been 10 years since I graduated, but it still feels weird!) made English inspiring and fun. She’s at least partially responsible for the professional pedantry and language nerdery I’m known for today.

Think of her as the cheeky, delightful English lady version of Robin Williams in Dead Poets Society, except without the boring poetry, miserable teenage boy themes and Williams’ renowned body hair. And from memory, we never stood on our desks saying “oh captain, my captain”…

Okay, so it was nothing like Dead Poets Society.  But it was cool.  There were tears when our advanced English class discovered we weren’t getting her for our final year. Tears, I tell you!

One day in year 10, Mrs Wells was explaining the word “glint” to us.  She said that when we got to Florence (“when” she said, like it was par for our course in life – told you she was the best!) and saw all the goodies in the marketplace there, there’d be a ”glint” in our eyes.  It sounded adventurous and exotic, like pirates and treasure and bandannas.

I, of course, took this to mean that we had to travel to Florence in order to genuinely grasp the meaning of a single word – which was sound reasoning as far as I was concerned. Maybe Mrs Wells told year after year of students this and was receiving kickbacks from the Italian Tourism Board but, still, it was good enough for me.

Marilyn and I mentioned “Italy 2006″ for years but, as it turned out, she ended up going with other friends in 2005!  I could’ve gone with them, but the crappily paid, disastrously horrid job I had at the time wouldn’t allow it.  So I missed Italy, and our dynamic duo travel plans “before we’re too old” never happened.

Still, we knew we had to go somewhere, sometime…

“How about Greece?” I suggested out of the blue – almost.

“Ooh, Greece!” Marilyn enthused.

We picked a year, too – this time, 2008.  Sure we’d be closer to 30, but that didn’t seem old anymore…

“Italy 2006″ had become “Greece 2008″ – and, no, it’s not because I paint the entire Mediterranean with the same brush.  Though if I did, it’d be cobalt.

I had images of aquamarine seas, azure skies, white houses with blue doors, olive trees, smashing plates, lazy afternoons and late nights, narrow cobbled streets, and old dudes with worry beads.

But there was another reason for Greece 2008 – a more important one, perhaps. It’s the reason I didn’t really acknowledge when I first made the suggestion to Marilyn.

You see, not everybody knows this but I’m half Greek.  But I was raised in a predominantly Anglo nation, surrounded by Anglo relatives, and befriending people from all over the world. As a result, I didn’t see myself as being any culture in particular (or, as some would call it, ’Australian’).

I never saw any point in talking or even thinking about the other half of my heritage because it really was, as they say, “All Greek to me…”

But then it struck – it being my Late Twenties Quest For Meaning Or Whatever (LTQFMOW – catchy, no?). As part of my LTQFMOW, I set out to learn more about the other half of my genes, to see if there is more to me than my upbringing.  It’s that old question of nature vs nurture - can culture be in the blood too?

So I booked a flight to Athens, enrolled in Greek language classes, and found myself eating more feta (though that may have more to do with the award-winning cheeses I tried in the Hunter Valley, but details-schmetails - we’re talking Important Issues here).

Would I have things in common with the Greeks just because I’m related to some of them?  I guess I’d find out soon enough – and before age 30, no less.